Dinner Dates Suck!

Besides a lot of questions on relationships, I am also getting quite a few questions on dates.
"A dinner date" is the most common type of date in the world today - and that's both its positive and negative side. You know that it can get really awkward, and that the restaurant environment by itself is rather boring. It's just you and her.

Dinner dates suck as a first date because,
1 It's the first part of the traditional courtship ritual.
2 You're buying her attention - You're buying her stuff to eat, just to get her to listen to what you have to say. It is just me, or aren't that kind of weird?
3 It's boring.
4 It's not a natural way to get to know someone. Do you usually eat dinner with somebody you don't know?
5 They're hard to escape. - You're tied to a chair for a few hours. And what to do other than run when she catches you looking at her cleveage? It's hard to focus on the food when you sit down for that long.
6 Awkward silence. - You're nervous and feel a pressure to say something if she doesn't. The nervousness also translates into your other movements...This makes it very possible to do stupid stuff like dropping your fork while you're eating.
7 Dinner dates are predictable. - This makes it very hard for you to stick out of the crowd, you're probably just one boring date out of hundreds.

What to do instead:
Have her come pick you up at your place. Invite her in for few minutes, and then go out to one of the local coffee shops. Talk and just have a good time.

こどなの階段／南波志帆

L'amour en douce

“I have so much love for you, I could fill rooms with it. Buildings. You’re surrounded by it wherever you go, you walk through it, breathe it…it’s in your lungs, and under your tongue, and between your fingers and toes…” His mouth moved passionately over hers, urging her lips apart. It was a kiss to level mountains and shake stars from the sky. It was a kiss to make angels faint and demons weep…a passionate, demanding, soul-searing kiss that nearly knocked the earth off its axis. Or at least that was how Poppy felt about it.”



— Lisa Kleypas (Tempt Me at Twilight)

It's Truer than True.

I don't know where to start from.
I wish I could forget what happened to me today,
I wish I was out of my mind, but in my brain,
I can even think of every single detail.
I wish you could read everything on my mind just for a second,
so you will see how I'm truly feeling.

All the things you've said to me since we've met,
melted my whole coldness and anxiety.
I hope at least what you've said wasn't a lie.
I hate that I still love you even after I knew something was gone the worst.

I won't blame on anyone for this situation.
I won't even try to figure out what's happening here,
but the hardest part of my situation is that I have to give you up,
if you were already gone back to your girl.
I hope your decision wasn't wrong.

If you meant to play a game with me,
If it wasn't our fate,
If all you could do was leaving me away,
then can you say that you still believe in soulmates and true lovers?

You know what, you completely don't know what love is,
because you don't see me holding love and you just passed by.

You can't walk back in!

I loved you first,I left you first, and then now I miss you the most.

Love seemed to be disappeared forever, but when I see your pictures, my heart still beats faster.

I still remember your smile, even though I forgot your face.

I miss your touch, even though I forgot how tall you were.

But the thing is,

every single thing we shared together

left in the past as good memories,

somewhere we can't even go back to find out.

I don't love you anymore,

but I'd find someone like you,

and I'd fall in love again.

This is how love works.



Interesting Facts About Pancakes

Pancakes are eaten all around the world throughout the year but in some countries special days are reserved such as Shrove Tuesdays, Easter and lot more. Pancakes are thin cakes made of batter of milk, flour, sugar, butter and eggs baked in a griddle or fried in a pan. At times buttermilk is used in place of milk to make the cake more fluffy and soft.
Different places carry different tales with the pancakes. In Newfoundland people add items to the batter and use them to tell future of the family members before cooking the pancake. In France people make a wish, touching the handle of the pan keeping a coin in one hand while tossing the cake. One man was so fond of the pancakes that he ran a race, tossing the pancakes.
Pancakes are served with variety of syrups at different place. Some countries serve it with maple syrup made of sap collected from maple trees; some serve it with jellies and still others with jams. Ready mix for the pancakes is also available in the market.
Some facts recorded about the pancakes tell that Buchinghamshire was the first to celebrate the Pancake Day in 1445. The least amount of time taken for tossing the pancakes for the maximum time was in U. K. when the pancakes were tossed 349 times in 2 seconds. It was in 1994 that the biggest pancake was cooked which weighed three tons and was of 15 meters width in Rochdale. World�s Largest Pancake Breakfast was held in 1986 to celebrate 350th anniversary of Massachusetts and since then this is practiced every year and many people volunteer their help for the same.

How Love Works

It is wrong to think that love lasts forever. Nothing lasts forever. According to an psychological research, they found a higher divorce rate from those who got married due to they loved each other. Even true love doesn't go along with marriage. Then, what makes people fall in love?

Psychologist Mark Kristal from the University of Buffalo explains the chemistry in romantic relationships. “There are several types of chemistry required in romantic relationships,” he says. “It seems like a variety of different neurochemical processes and external stimuli have to click in the right complex and right sequence for someone to fall in love.” The chemistry in romance requires certain elements of love.

1.Smell.
We fall in love partly because of smell. The scent of a bouquet of red roses, for instance, is a cultural preference that boosts the chemistry in romantic relationships. Dr Kristal says, “Smell forms part of the framework that conforms to cultural attractiveness standards. For example, smelling like a strawberry instead of mildew makes you attractive.” Smelling delicious could be part of why we fall in love.

2.Love pheromones.
Invisible signals are part of what makes people fall in love. “Pheromones are unlearned, and perhaps unsmellable, signals that enter the brain through the olfactory system. They can function in sex, alarm, territoriality, aggression, and fear,” says Dr Kristal. He believes that we choose specific mates not solely due to pheromones, but for other reasons. Other sensory cues are better explanations for why we fall in love, such as touch, smell, and hearing.


3.The brain.
We fall in love partly because of hormones. Oxytocin and vasopressin are present when people fall in love and stay together for a long time. Dopamine is also part of the chemistry in romantic relationships. So, when you’re wondering “Why doesn’t he love me?” you may have to look to brain chemistry as the answer. It’s not necessarily you, it’s just that your brain chemicals didn’t mesh. Lack of hormones could explain why people fall in love.


Can you make someone love you? Well, since the chemistry in romantic relationships is affected by smell, you could try approaching someone you like with a dozen roses or a mug of hot chocolate. And since the hormone oxytocin can be created by positive experiences, it might be smart to ensure all your interactions are pleasant ones. Recently, fragrances developed for women contain pheromones in them. They might work well if you are willing to make someone fall in love with you.

Summer Sensation 2010

心灵

What I want to know but I have to know was if your words could kill me inside. I pretended not to listen to your words and wanted to look innocent next to you. When you look at me with a smile, my heart suddenly stops. You always say I'm beautiful and sweet. You think I am sexy when I work on my paper. I get blushed and don't know what to say. You rescued me from my darkened life in the past. You said I could possibly use you for a while and I did. Then, I was captivated by your gentle mind.

Columbia Univ., Purdue Univ., Duke Univ., Univ of Illinois, UW, UPenn., ANU, Univ. of London, I completely submitted all the apps for these university. But, I still wonder if I am really ready to start my junior year of my college. Otherwise, would I need a break for a year? Perhaps, working as a model @ a clothing company changed me a lot. Because of that, I changed my major and primary goals, and actually, my parents kinda gave me up at this point, but I don't care because it's my life. I would have a job and be happy with it.

I am who I am. I 100% came back to who I used to be...kinda fricking? or sassy? Dah! I feel like this year would be the best time in my life. Everything works very well and I expect to become more like my self, trying to be stronger, yes! C:

Easy Steps To Go Through

1.Start liking someone else quick. In this position of depression, you are very vulnerable to emotional attacks. Liking someone else will distract you from that old boy.
2.Don't listen to any slow or love songs... you will grow desperate.
3.If you are friends with him, make it clear to yourself that friendship is all he wants. He has his girlfriend because he likes her!
4.Be sensitive to him, but not overly. You'll just be digging a deeper hole for yourself.
5.There are other men, who will accept you! Go for it.
6.Go out and have some fun. Don't just stay at home thinking about what he's doing with the gf.
7.Don't cry over a man who doesn't like you.
8.Do not let yourself think that you are not attractive, or that you will never find someone better. There is always someone better.
9.If he has a MySpace, Facebook, etc, avoid his page. Seeing him and his girlfriend there will just hurt.
10.Don't have him within your top 5/10/etc, unless you are practically best friends. She'll just be suspicious.
11.Try not to look at him.
12.If you start to think about him, then think about someone else. Someone hotter.
13.Don't be calling him a lot. That's just not cool.
14.Unless you have a legit reason, just don't call/text him.
15.Don't look at him as the most important person in your life.
16.Forget him because it could effect your mental health, which will directly affect your studies. After all, your degree is more important.
17.Make sure that you self analyze your relationship and jot down the pros and cons of your relationship: This is the most important step to prepare yourself, as you will need to know exactly what makes your relationship work: Is it the love, is it the sex, is it the companionship, is it the family pressure, is it your friends etc. You need to know the strong points and the weak points in your relationship. This way you can build on the strong aspects on your relationship, while neutralizing the weak aspects.
18.Make sure that you especially analyze your faults and weaknesses: For example, if your ex-lover thought that you were self centered, then you should recognize this and thus take steps to change yourself. Don’t forget that whatever caused your relationship to fail, you hold the key inside you. However, in order to fix it, you must know what aspects of yourself to change.
19.While you are doing the self analysis above, make sure that you provide your ex-partner with some space and time. Your partner must understand that you won’t die, because your relationship has broken. Don’t forget that emotional blackmail is the worst thing that you can do. If you want to win your ex back, you must be confident and you must show your ex that life doesn’t revolve around you two.
20.Improve yourself: To show your ex that you have changed and also to show that you still have the positive qualities that you had in your relationship; you must improve yourself. At the least try to make yourself physically fit. If possible, change your job and get a better one to show that you can be a better person.
21.Make sure that you keep the channels of communication open: Go to your friends for advice. If you have the chance, make sure that you visit your ex-lovers friends. Show them that you have changed, so that they can tell your ex informally. No matter what happens make sure that you have a calm demeanor. The task ahead to make up won’t be easy; but these preparations will help you get through it.

Always Between The Lines

Just about the time the shadows call

I undress my mind and dare you to follow
Paint a portrait of my mystery
Only close my eyes and you are here with me
A nameless face to think I see
To sit and watch the waves with me till they're gone
A heart I'd swear I'd recognize is made out of my own devices.
Could I be wrong?


The time that I've taken
I pray is not wasted
Have I already tasted my piece of one sweet love?


Sleepless nights you creep inside of me
Paint your shadows on the breath that we share
You take more than just my sanity
You take my reason not to care.
No ordinary wings I'll need
The sky itself will carry me back to you


The things I dream that I can do I'll open up
The moon for you
Just come down soon
Ready and waiting for a heart worth the breaking
But I'd settle for an honest mistake in the name of
One sweet love.


Savor the sorrow to soften the pain sip on
The southern rain
As I do, I don't look don't touch don't do anything
But hope that there is a you.

Bittersweet

Am I in You?

My heart doesn't lie like it didn't before from the day I first saw you.
I took out the old photos and journals from my secret pandora box and imagined you doing well without me. I still hear your voice and see you in my dream. Thinking of you who used to whisper "I love you" in my ear still makes me smile.
I thought you would come back to me because you knew how this break up would hurt you and me and you truly noticed that I was dying in the dark shadow, but you didn't even look back to me, walking away from me.
When I recently saw you on the street, passing by me, I couldn't even recognize you. You've changed too much so I could barely stare at you. Then, I looked down and tried to make sure that I forgot you and you're not mine anymore, but I couldn't do so, so I cried, waiting for you to catch me back.
You might meet someone else and you don't even wonder how I am living these days. You might not remember our love, fallen down on the ground like a parachute sinks into the water with no sound. I might be the only one who still fights for your love and try not to move on so I can keep good memories without being scattered away in the air.
Nobody else can break our love, even though you and I have been apart. Nobody can manipulate or judge us. That's why I follow what my heart leads, no matter what. I'll wait like this till you come back, even if it takes forever. So, I say I love you.

All I Wanna Tell You

Unrecognizable

He would say what he wants and I would listen and tell him, "Don't be silly, you know I love you."
Fortunately or unfortunately, you are not alone and I'll be always next to you, and we will have the greatest Christmas pretty soon. I'll calm down his nervous, desperate feelings.
He, then, asks me a lot of the same question nonstop with his curious, ravishing face like a little child. He can't seem to hide his smiling mind. I would say that he acts weird, making a frowny face, but, inside myself, I say he can't be more adorable than that!

I can not easily express my feelings, whether I feel good or not, without getting people mad at me, or I'm really good at acting. I pretend to look fine, self-controlling, and kinda happy in my life. Sometimes, I act to be mean, selfish, and hating, not to open my mind toward them, but I would be feeling sorry to them and saying, "It's not what I really mean, but hope you understand why." My parents and friends are also unable to define who I am like. I would be the sweetest girl temporarily, change my mind, and act so cold, blue, and even mean like chameleons change their skin colour depending on the ecosystem they live in.

Letting people leave is the hardest thing I might do, but I would leave them when I feel like they would pretty much shut down their mind and walk away from me, so that I don't get a huge broken heart. It'd be also hard to decide letting them apart away from me, but easier than getting hurt. People would tell me I'm not understandable but more vulnerable than others. Who are you like?

Not Because...

People tend to love someone to prove that they love themselves and realize that they are terrified to get hurt by the one they love so they can't easily open their minds.

Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? screwed up your relationship at the end? and looked for your new soulmate to get over your ex-boyfriend? I used to do the same. I wanted to figure out why I really got exhausted with all the things between him and me. I thought of such things like,
'Everyone makes people do funny things at the beginning of a relationship, wanting too much happiness, too much pleasure, too much beliefs, until they make you feel sick.' I know terrible circumstances and discipline were stucking him and me into the darkness but the main point wasn't, but untrustfulness devoured our love and true feelings were gone.

I tried everything to get rid of every single stuff that reminds me of him. I prayed for myself to God to be retrieved. I re-planned and started my life again, eventually my ruined body and heart didn't diminish a part of my future, which was almost vanished.

Depending on the length of the relationship, it might be harder and take longer to actually get over them. However, after a breakup, no matter how bad it was, we know we gotta move on because everyone needs a little bit of love and affection to live in this world.

What I learned from so many passing people in love was, when you love someone, do not afraid to lose yourself and sacrify yourself to fall in love. Love is not only blind but also deaf, dumb, and stupid. The fear that you have inside is from your greedy, selfish, sneaky mind. Once you truly love someone, you won't be able to hide yourself and might lose important things in your life, but after you get into a deep relationship, you'll get the worthwhile things back and find the treasure.

When I was in love with him, I was happy not to be apart but feeling guilty about that I was keeping him besides me even though my love has disappeared. However, after the desperate breakup, what I realized was I still loved him at that moment and was living in regreattable memories and the sorrow like a sad divorced woman or my mom. I couldn't get him back at the end and I still think I was stupid and made a wrong decision. I lost you.

Not Yet

You smile when you feel like crying
you act like you're okay.
When you're really falling apart inside,
and you eventually let it go.
You move on because there's nothing else you can do or say.
But I can still feel your love and anger at the same time,
and you don't seem to know how it hurts me and breaks down.

As we grow up, we'll learn that even the one person that wasn't
supposed to ever let you down probably will. We will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. When you leave someone, you'll also have a broken mind inside, so remember how
it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love and regret that you'd already left the one you truly loved in the past. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've
never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. 

Thanks to you, I learned the true love and would never force again to get you back because even though you say you're lonely in your life at this moment without me,I know you don't want to be with me anymore and I don't want to get hurt by watching you dying next to me, not in love...but I still love you because my heart doesn't tend to work in the same way my brain does. I thought I forgot you but unconsciously, I think of you. Is it how you wanted me to be supposed to? Fighting for this love with no purpose? Realising that all the conflicts and faults and feeling guilty? Is it all you can do? Why are you being so cruel and making me vulnerable? It's not who you were, isn't it? 

Danza Hermosa

I've been dancing in my whole life; ballet for 7 yrs, Tahitian(belly + Hawaiian hula dance) and cheeleading dance for 2 yrs, contemporary(modern) dance for 5 yrs, and hip-hop (freestyle) dance.
In this quarter, I had to take one of the art classes. Actually, I wanted to take a vocal class but after talking with an advisor, she said like, "Yes, you took dance classes in high school. So, why don't you take a performance class. You can definitely get the permission from the prof.!"
And now, I'm sitting in front of my laptop computer and searching for any songs for my final term...I've been having choreographies almost everyday with my partner but nothing seems to be getting better.

Here are the songs I picked;
Sergio Mendes Ft. Black Eyed Peas - Mas Que Nada (Samba Pt.)
Mika - Happy Ending (Contemporary Pt.)
Nelly - Just A Dream (Hip-Hop)


The final-term one is limited to 20 minutes but I don't know he and I can dance for the whole period...dah! It's chaos! Only 2 weeks left and my whole body are already torn.

If you have any ideas, please comment here or tell me asap! :)

In the morning, the first thing I think of is what you would do today.

I spend more time thinking of you.

I feel stuck and act like a loser in this love.

I know I shouldn't be missing you.

I used to be high-demanding and disrespectful to you.

All of a sudden though,

I started thinking about you nonstop.

I seriously cannot get you out of my head.

I've fallen into this deep spiral of sadness.

I feel so alone and lost,

even though I know he's not looking back at me.

What happened to me? What have I done?

                                                

I'll Get Back Up Again

If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden, or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi desert.  He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator.  He will not be striving for it as a goal in itself.  He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of the day. 

Happiness must be allowed to grow up.