How Love Works

It is wrong to think that love lasts forever. Nothing lasts forever. According to an psychological research, they found a higher divorce rate from those who got married due to they loved each other. Even true love doesn't go along with marriage. Then, what makes people fall in love?

Psychologist Mark Kristal from the University of Buffalo explains the chemistry in romantic relationships. “There are several types of chemistry required in romantic relationships,” he says. “It seems like a variety of different neurochemical processes and external stimuli have to click in the right complex and right sequence for someone to fall in love.” The chemistry in romance requires certain elements of love.

1.Smell.
We fall in love partly because of smell. The scent of a bouquet of red roses, for instance, is a cultural preference that boosts the chemistry in romantic relationships. Dr Kristal says, “Smell forms part of the framework that conforms to cultural attractiveness standards. For example, smelling like a strawberry instead of mildew makes you attractive.” Smelling delicious could be part of why we fall in love.

2.Love pheromones.
Invisible signals are part of what makes people fall in love. “Pheromones are unlearned, and perhaps unsmellable, signals that enter the brain through the olfactory system. They can function in sex, alarm, territoriality, aggression, and fear,” says Dr Kristal. He believes that we choose specific mates not solely due to pheromones, but for other reasons. Other sensory cues are better explanations for why we fall in love, such as touch, smell, and hearing.


3.The brain.
We fall in love partly because of hormones. Oxytocin and vasopressin are present when people fall in love and stay together for a long time. Dopamine is also part of the chemistry in romantic relationships. So, when you’re wondering “Why doesn’t he love me?” you may have to look to brain chemistry as the answer. It’s not necessarily you, it’s just that your brain chemicals didn’t mesh. Lack of hormones could explain why people fall in love.


Can you make someone love you? Well, since the chemistry in romantic relationships is affected by smell, you could try approaching someone you like with a dozen roses or a mug of hot chocolate. And since the hormone oxytocin can be created by positive experiences, it might be smart to ensure all your interactions are pleasant ones. Recently, fragrances developed for women contain pheromones in them. They might work well if you are willing to make someone fall in love with you.

Summer Sensation 2010

心灵

What I want to know but I have to know was if your words could kill me inside. I pretended not to listen to your words and wanted to look innocent next to you. When you look at me with a smile, my heart suddenly stops. You always say I'm beautiful and sweet. You think I am sexy when I work on my paper. I get blushed and don't know what to say. You rescued me from my darkened life in the past. You said I could possibly use you for a while and I did. Then, I was captivated by your gentle mind.

Columbia Univ., Purdue Univ., Duke Univ., Univ of Illinois, UW, UPenn., ANU, Univ. of London, I completely submitted all the apps for these university. But, I still wonder if I am really ready to start my junior year of my college. Otherwise, would I need a break for a year? Perhaps, working as a model @ a clothing company changed me a lot. Because of that, I changed my major and primary goals, and actually, my parents kinda gave me up at this point, but I don't care because it's my life. I would have a job and be happy with it.

I am who I am. I 100% came back to who I used to be...kinda fricking? or sassy? Dah! I feel like this year would be the best time in my life. Everything works very well and I expect to become more like my self, trying to be stronger, yes! C: