How Love Works

It is wrong to think that love lasts forever. Nothing lasts forever. According to an psychological research, they found a higher divorce rate from those who got married due to they loved each other. Even true love doesn't go along with marriage. Then, what makes people fall in love?

Psychologist Mark Kristal from the University of Buffalo explains the chemistry in romantic relationships. “There are several types of chemistry required in romantic relationships,” he says. “It seems like a variety of different neurochemical processes and external stimuli have to click in the right complex and right sequence for someone to fall in love.” The chemistry in romance requires certain elements of love.

1.Smell.
We fall in love partly because of smell. The scent of a bouquet of red roses, for instance, is a cultural preference that boosts the chemistry in romantic relationships. Dr Kristal says, “Smell forms part of the framework that conforms to cultural attractiveness standards. For example, smelling like a strawberry instead of mildew makes you attractive.” Smelling delicious could be part of why we fall in love.

2.Love pheromones.
Invisible signals are part of what makes people fall in love. “Pheromones are unlearned, and perhaps unsmellable, signals that enter the brain through the olfactory system. They can function in sex, alarm, territoriality, aggression, and fear,” says Dr Kristal. He believes that we choose specific mates not solely due to pheromones, but for other reasons. Other sensory cues are better explanations for why we fall in love, such as touch, smell, and hearing.


3.The brain.
We fall in love partly because of hormones. Oxytocin and vasopressin are present when people fall in love and stay together for a long time. Dopamine is also part of the chemistry in romantic relationships. So, when you’re wondering “Why doesn’t he love me?” you may have to look to brain chemistry as the answer. It’s not necessarily you, it’s just that your brain chemicals didn’t mesh. Lack of hormones could explain why people fall in love.


Can you make someone love you? Well, since the chemistry in romantic relationships is affected by smell, you could try approaching someone you like with a dozen roses or a mug of hot chocolate. And since the hormone oxytocin can be created by positive experiences, it might be smart to ensure all your interactions are pleasant ones. Recently, fragrances developed for women contain pheromones in them. They might work well if you are willing to make someone fall in love with you.

Summer Sensation 2010

心灵

What I want to know but I have to know was if your words could kill me inside. I pretended not to listen to your words and wanted to look innocent next to you. When you look at me with a smile, my heart suddenly stops. You always say I'm beautiful and sweet. You think I am sexy when I work on my paper. I get blushed and don't know what to say. You rescued me from my darkened life in the past. You said I could possibly use you for a while and I did. Then, I was captivated by your gentle mind.

Columbia Univ., Purdue Univ., Duke Univ., Univ of Illinois, UW, UPenn., ANU, Univ. of London, I completely submitted all the apps for these university. But, I still wonder if I am really ready to start my junior year of my college. Otherwise, would I need a break for a year? Perhaps, working as a model @ a clothing company changed me a lot. Because of that, I changed my major and primary goals, and actually, my parents kinda gave me up at this point, but I don't care because it's my life. I would have a job and be happy with it.

I am who I am. I 100% came back to who I used to be...kinda fricking? or sassy? Dah! I feel like this year would be the best time in my life. Everything works very well and I expect to become more like my self, trying to be stronger, yes! C:

Easy Steps To Go Through

1.Start liking someone else quick. In this position of depression, you are very vulnerable to emotional attacks. Liking someone else will distract you from that old boy.
2.Don't listen to any slow or love songs... you will grow desperate.
3.If you are friends with him, make it clear to yourself that friendship is all he wants. He has his girlfriend because he likes her!
4.Be sensitive to him, but not overly. You'll just be digging a deeper hole for yourself.
5.There are other men, who will accept you! Go for it.
6.Go out and have some fun. Don't just stay at home thinking about what he's doing with the gf.
7.Don't cry over a man who doesn't like you.
8.Do not let yourself think that you are not attractive, or that you will never find someone better. There is always someone better.
9.If he has a MySpace, Facebook, etc, avoid his page. Seeing him and his girlfriend there will just hurt.
10.Don't have him within your top 5/10/etc, unless you are practically best friends. She'll just be suspicious.
11.Try not to look at him.
12.If you start to think about him, then think about someone else. Someone hotter.
13.Don't be calling him a lot. That's just not cool.
14.Unless you have a legit reason, just don't call/text him.
15.Don't look at him as the most important person in your life.
16.Forget him because it could effect your mental health, which will directly affect your studies. After all, your degree is more important.
17.Make sure that you self analyze your relationship and jot down the pros and cons of your relationship: This is the most important step to prepare yourself, as you will need to know exactly what makes your relationship work: Is it the love, is it the sex, is it the companionship, is it the family pressure, is it your friends etc. You need to know the strong points and the weak points in your relationship. This way you can build on the strong aspects on your relationship, while neutralizing the weak aspects.
18.Make sure that you especially analyze your faults and weaknesses: For example, if your ex-lover thought that you were self centered, then you should recognize this and thus take steps to change yourself. Don’t forget that whatever caused your relationship to fail, you hold the key inside you. However, in order to fix it, you must know what aspects of yourself to change.
19.While you are doing the self analysis above, make sure that you provide your ex-partner with some space and time. Your partner must understand that you won’t die, because your relationship has broken. Don’t forget that emotional blackmail is the worst thing that you can do. If you want to win your ex back, you must be confident and you must show your ex that life doesn’t revolve around you two.
20.Improve yourself: To show your ex that you have changed and also to show that you still have the positive qualities that you had in your relationship; you must improve yourself. At the least try to make yourself physically fit. If possible, change your job and get a better one to show that you can be a better person.
21.Make sure that you keep the channels of communication open: Go to your friends for advice. If you have the chance, make sure that you visit your ex-lovers friends. Show them that you have changed, so that they can tell your ex informally. No matter what happens make sure that you have a calm demeanor. The task ahead to make up won’t be easy; but these preparations will help you get through it.

Always Between The Lines

Just about the time the shadows call

I undress my mind and dare you to follow
Paint a portrait of my mystery
Only close my eyes and you are here with me
A nameless face to think I see
To sit and watch the waves with me till they're gone
A heart I'd swear I'd recognize is made out of my own devices.
Could I be wrong?


The time that I've taken
I pray is not wasted
Have I already tasted my piece of one sweet love?


Sleepless nights you creep inside of me
Paint your shadows on the breath that we share
You take more than just my sanity
You take my reason not to care.
No ordinary wings I'll need
The sky itself will carry me back to you


The things I dream that I can do I'll open up
The moon for you
Just come down soon
Ready and waiting for a heart worth the breaking
But I'd settle for an honest mistake in the name of
One sweet love.


Savor the sorrow to soften the pain sip on
The southern rain
As I do, I don't look don't touch don't do anything
But hope that there is a you.

Bittersweet

Am I in You?

My heart doesn't lie like it didn't before from the day I first saw you.
I took out the old photos and journals from my secret pandora box and imagined you doing well without me. I still hear your voice and see you in my dream. Thinking of you who used to whisper "I love you" in my ear still makes me smile.
I thought you would come back to me because you knew how this break up would hurt you and me and you truly noticed that I was dying in the dark shadow, but you didn't even look back to me, walking away from me.
When I recently saw you on the street, passing by me, I couldn't even recognize you. You've changed too much so I could barely stare at you. Then, I looked down and tried to make sure that I forgot you and you're not mine anymore, but I couldn't do so, so I cried, waiting for you to catch me back.
You might meet someone else and you don't even wonder how I am living these days. You might not remember our love, fallen down on the ground like a parachute sinks into the water with no sound. I might be the only one who still fights for your love and try not to move on so I can keep good memories without being scattered away in the air.
Nobody else can break our love, even though you and I have been apart. Nobody can manipulate or judge us. That's why I follow what my heart leads, no matter what. I'll wait like this till you come back, even if it takes forever. So, I say I love you.